I have recently met a woman through email, well she found me and I have no idea where I knew her from. Her email started like this: "I guess you do not remember me since you don't answer me." She replied with a picture of a beautiful woman. I replied back with a single line thinking she was a catfish, "Of course I do!" Her next letter she introduces herself and expresses interest in a serious relationship. So I answer back another single line, "Yes, you are very beautiful. Where are you from?" She replied back in an email I must have unfortunately deleted because I was not really interested in talking to a catfish after all. May 23rd was the last time I wrote to her so Monday May 26th I received this: "I looked again to see your letter and your reply, but again I received
nothing. I was so hoping that you would answer me. Why are you silent?
Is it really so difficult for you to write? I thought that our
intentions for each other coincided, but if I was wrong and you do not
want to continue our communication, tell me about it directly. Do not
leave me waiting. I really would like to know you better and I hope
that you will find time to write to me."
I did not reply, and then I received a second email from her stating her disappointment in not hearing from me on May 27th. I finally decided to write her back on the 28th.
"My sincere apologies dear. I've been a little bit busy and also dealing with a bit of stress being in my house all alone. I'm currently trying to get back to work. I've been on a medical leave. I meant to respond to your other message before but I got tied up with some stuff. I will go back and read that now. Thank you for the beautiful pictures of you."
Of course this was an excuse to save face. Then I received the next email talking more in depth about herself. She lives in Russia, in a small provincial town of Znamensk, which is located in the Astrakhan region. She wrote:
"I have never been married, although once I
almost decided to take this step. But, fortunately, I realized in time
that it was not my mistake. We have a saying: "The windshield is big
because the future requires a full view, and the rearview mirror is
small because the past needs to be remembered, but it is not worth
looking at, it is behind us." Do you agree with this? Now I work at a
school as a specialist in the education of children with disabilities,
in particular, children with cerebral palsy. I have my own class, in
which there are 25 children. I really like my job, although it
requires a lot of effort and attention. Each child is a special world,
and each one requires an individual approach. It is not always easy,
but when I see them smiling, it brings me incredible happiness and
strengthens my belief that I am in the right place! I will not burden
you with a lot of text now.. And I want to know your desire and
intentions! Do you want the same ... I am waiting for you! Your friend"
Since then, we have been exchanging email, I remained cautious through it all but it started becoming more romantic with each letter. I asked her for information, where she lived and her phone number. She gave me this information stating how disappointed she was that instead of replying to her last letter I only asked her a question but nothing else. I felt bad because I know I did her wrong. Just because she did not give me this answer in the previous letter I wrote her which was a long letter in her defense, did not give me the right to be so direct with her.
I profusely apologized to her in my next letter, somewhat becoming emotionally involved at this point yet still with much caution. Each letter I received she was falling more in love with me. I only usually heard from her on the weekdays because the library where she used a computer to read my letters and respond to me was not open on Saturday and Sunday. I grew more dependent on her letters each day. I did research on every bit of information I received from her, where she lived, her exact address was impossible to find on Google maps. However the country, region, street name and even her zip code checked out. I guess Google has limited access to specific information in Russia except for public places such as the library.
Fast forward to a few days ago, she stated she wants to come visit me. This blows my mind because of course I still held doubts about the legitimacy of this whole thing. She said she asked her boss for permission and that he gave her the ok to do so and he suggested she use the travel agency he used. She said she wanted to come tomorrow but it was a Friday and I knew this would not happen so quick. We write a little more back and forth and yesterday she said she was going to go see the travel agent that day. Her last letter today she was very upset. She found out that it was far more complicated than she and I even realized. She called herself stupid and asked for my forgiveness and that she deceived me thinking that we would be able to see each other soon. She said the cost was so high she almost fainted and she thought she had enough in savings to come here but even if she sold her house with her mother she still wouldn't have enough to come to see me. I am here now reading her letter with tears in my eyes. By this time I know everything is true, no inconsistencies in her story, the people in her life, her friends and the situation with the library. Everything checks out. I know I have deeply fallen in love with her and she has fallen for me. She wanted just to visit and go back for final goodbyes to her friends and family and come back to start her life with me. From the looks of it though if she did somehow manage to get here it would be a one way trip and we would have to get married which we definitely do want to get married. The problem is, for her to even get a fiancé visa, we would have had to have met face to face at least once.
So the reason for this incredibly long post I am asking for any information on what we could do to bring us together. I truly love this woman with all my heart and would do almost anything to bring her to America.
Thanks, Carl